Happy Anniversary Debbie!
Tomorrow will mark 47 years.
That is the equivalent of 17,155 days.
A significant amount of time to be with one’s significant other, true?
In reality it’s actually been more than 17,155 days when I add
in the 365 days we were engaged, plus the many more days we dated from high
school into college. And every day for over 17,155 days - more than 47 years -
I have enjoyed being married to my high school sweetheart.
Many of you are in a long-lasting relationship; many have
been married longer than we. A Mile High
Salute! Maybe my relationship thrived
because I was a “Road Warrior” for several years? A colleague of mine once said:
The secret to a long marriage is a husband
that travels.
Lisa Kwiecien
As you know, I write about my wife frequently; not
necessarily daily; but frequently. Like
any couple, we have our good days and our not-so-good days. Like many couples, we’ve also had some of
those relationship-testing; foundation-rattling; we’re-not-going-to-make-it;
kind of days. When those days have occurred we followed
James P. Owen’s advice:
When you’re riding through hell… keep riding.
Any meaningful journey is like that, don’t you think? Even one of America’s most famous sweethearts
offered all of us her guidance on life’s journey:
Pain nourishes courage. You can’t be brave if you’ve only had
wonderful things happen to you.
Mary
Tyler Moore
Over our 17,000+ days, we have had more than our share of
wonderful things happen; all driven by love.
In fact, 47 years ago this month the #1 song on the Billboard Hot 100 was “Love
Train” by the O’Jays. According to
Wikipedia:
The word 'train' comes from the Old
French trahiner, from the Latin trahere meaning
pull, or draw.
I have been a passenger on that love train as my wife has
pulled us along for 47 years! Of course,
I’ve tried to pay attention to the little things that make a difference day by day;
lighten her load a bit; smooth the tracks.
Rob Gilbert made a list:
How to have a Winning Day:
You have to listen more than you talk…
You have to smile more than you frown…
You have to be fascinated more than you're frustrated…
You have to believe in yourself more than you
doubt yourself.
You have to work more than you whine.
You have to do more than you don't.
I have also paid attention to my role, responsibilities and
boundaries:
Men ordering custom colors must first bring in
a note from their wife.
Guiry Paint
Store
It’s OK; she writes the notes; I run the errands; we make a
great team. And on those occasional
occasions where disagreement looms, I heed Harlan Miller’s advice:
Often the difference between a successful
marriage and a mediocre one consists of leaving three or four things a day
unsaid.
17,155 days and our love train is still rolling strong. No matter our future course; no matter the challenges
we will face; the trials that will test us; not even the weather we may
encounter; our love train will continue – pulled along by my significant other
– regardless of whether the wind is boosting us from behind our back or
resisting us as it blows hard in our face.
Etheridge Knight’s words will continue to guide us:
Love is a rock against the wind.
Happy 47th Anniversary Dear! You’re my rock and I love you.
GAP
When life gets tough we could get a helmet… or…
we could leverage the peace and share the power of a positive perspective.
WOW, Gary. What a wonderful article. Your wife was always an inspiration to me. Such a talented woman. Happy Anniversary to the two of you. We are just 2 years behind you...also high school sweethearts!
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