Mentor anyone?

Do you think top producers should have a mentor?  After all, they’re already “killin’ it”.  They’re probably being asked by their manager to share their expertise; teach the others how to do it; set the pace; true?  If everything is going so well, why would a rain maker of all people need a mentor? 

Well, even Jack Nicklaus, arguably the greatest golfer of all time, didn’t want to be left alone.  The same applies to Tiger Woods and literally every other professional on tour.  If it’s good for them, shouldn’t it be good for us?

As a top sales rep, I used to take my stress, worry, and insecurity out on my wife (and my dog).  They were both happy when I finally connected with a mentor (I actually had two).  Having been on “both sides of the fence”, I’ve developed these opinions about top performers, especially in sales: 

·         We don’t want to be “trained”

·         We don’t want to be “managed”

·         Yet, we don’t want to be left alone 

Perhaps because I was a “hunter” I’m frequently approached by other hunters.  Our discussion usually begins with the question, “What would Gary do?”  I don’t know, maybe they think I’m an “expert”.  Lawrence Peter and I have our doubts: 

Make three correct guesses consecutively, and you will establish a reputation as an expert. 

Recently, a friend, top producer, and mentee shared with others that I was definitely an expert.  I chuckled: 

An expert is a man who has made all the mistakes which can be made in a very narrow field. 

Niels Bohn 

That’s me alright, “…made all the mistakes which can be made…”.  Nonetheless, I’ve enjoyed working with successful quota carriers over the years. No matter their age, I can relate. Quota (and mistakes) spans generations. 

This person was the third, #1 sales rep from his respective company that I met with recently.  They were all unsettled.  I don’t know why the sales profession creates so much discontent among high performers.  In other professions, success and contentment seems more common.  In his book, Drive © Harry F. Harlow wrote: 

The performance of the task provided intrinsic reward…  The joy of the task was its own reward. 

Top sales people don’t seem to easily find this joy.  The best-of-the-best are frequently labeled with a reputation that can become burdensome - extroverted, natural born, driven, lone wolf.  

Why would such a hunter seek a mentor?  In my experience, it’s that unsettled feeling.  They have a new manager; their territory was cut; their comp plan was changed; their success is no longer fulfilling; they fear their ability to continue it; they’re being lured by a higher commission plan; they feel if they don’t change jobs (or worse, take a promotion to management) it will somehow be held against them; their family relationships are strained.  

I can remember meeting with the #1 sales rep at Salesforce.com a month after he had received his first, seven figure, W-2!  He asked, “Gary, is that all there is?”  Unsettled. 

Are you a discontented, top performer?  

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens most of us.  We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?”

Nelson Mandela 

If you’re feeling unsettled it’s OK; you’re not alone.  You’re likely blessed with power, “beyond measure”!  Just ask your mentor.  

                                                            GAP 

When life gets tough we could get a helmet… or… we could leverage the peace and share the power of a positive perspective.

April 20, 1999 never forgotten…

 

Twenty-five years ago today, my hometown experienced the terror that two teenagers, feeling a sense of desperation and isolation, can bring to their high school, their community and our nation.  It was considered a rare event back then – unfortunately, hunting our school children has become an almost daily event now:

Life is hard and can often seem hopeless for many young people: 

Giving up on somebody takes nothing.  Helping them change takes a tremendous amount of time, energy, and love.  In the end, it’s worth it. 

Urban Meyer 

If you have a son or daughter; grandchildren; nieces or nephews; or neighborhood kids; reach out to them today.  Tell them today that you love them and will support them as they try to make their way in the world.  If they’re struggling to make ends meet – give them a few bucks, reassure them.  Today, help them feel they belong.  Give them hope. 

Let’s address our society’s violence.  Let’s use our power of compassion to increase the sunlight for those heading towards darkness: 

It takes the sun to create a shadow – accept that the dark and the light live side by side in all of us. 

Chellie Campbell 

It’s not just a high school in the town of Littleton, Colorado where I live - We are all Columbine: 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i9Seqhcq23M 

May you feel peace - and share the power of peace with others - today - especially today - and then every day thereafter! 

GAP

Why not?

In her commencement address thirteen years ago this season Majora Carter (an American urban revitalization strategist and public radio host from New York City) said to the graduating class of Knox College in Galesburg, Illinois: 

You guys will rock! 

It was an interesting dichotomy… An urban revitalization strategist rocking in farm country.  You can’t get much more rural than Galesburg.  Unless you take into account the “greater Galesburg metropolitan area” that includes, East Galesburg; Wataga; Altona; Galva; and the like. 

Galesburg, home to many famous people and a few less-than-remembered events is where I graduated from the college of “hard Knox”.  In those days, I loved the feel of being out in the country.  Growing up in a Chicago suburb, I knew the odds were high that I would live the majority of my adult life in or near a city.  You too? 

Knox College, surrounded by corn fields, was one location of the famous Lincoln-Douglas debates – a series of debates that literally shaped the future of our country.  Here’s one excerpt of that event: 

Both men arrived at the Knox College campus by carriage and walked into the college’s impressive new building that later came to be called Old Main.  The debate was held on the east side of the building.  As the two men, along with other dignitaries, stepped through a window on to the stage it is reported that Lincoln said, “Well, at last I have gone through college.”

                                  Owen Muelder

This spring will again witness a friend or relative’s high school or graduation ceremony for many of us.  Do you remember any of those past commencement speeches?  Maybe this year we should pay closer attention. 

I always enjoy the unbridled hope and enthusiasm that comes from these events.  It reminds me of the proclamations made back in the day, “We can accomplish anything!”; “We will rock!”  Today, how well are we maintaining the spirit of those commitments?  Sometimes growing up dampens our enthusiasm, yes?  Susan Jeffers put it this way: 

Life is what happens when we’ve made other plans.

I understand.  When we work for a living the idealism from high school and college can collide with the demands of Corporate America.  So many people today are trying to “Rock”… as an employee; a parent; a friend; a family member; a community contributor; and so many other responsibilities that it’s easy to forget those happier, simpler, “rural” days. 

It’s not too late.  Before we continue spiraling down the black hole of trepidation, political strife, over-commitments, or despair, let’s refocus on Mason Cooley’s perspective: 

            "Why not?” is a slogan for an interesting life.

I think we’re up to the task.  Why not recommit to hope; enthusiasm; positivity; a better night’s sleep?  Why not strive to simplify our over-energized, over-stressed, “over-urbanized” life styles? 

Why not go out on a limb? Isn’t that where the fruit is?

Frank Scully 

If we take a moment and think about it, I believe we already have the ability of adding fruit to our daily routine.  Why not follow Charles L. Bromley’s guidance: 

Why not make the best of things?  Any fool can make the worst of them. 

If you’re like me, our college experience was a bit different from Abraham Lincoln’s.  But if he was here today and looking at our possibilities for a better world as compared to the challenges he faced during his presidency, he might offer us these words of wisdom – Why not? 

GAP 

When life gets tough we could get a helmet… or… we could leverage the peace and share the power of a positive perspective.

Income taxes - Yuck!

Let’s take a break from our calculators, files, and receipts; aka IRS Form 1040; aka Income Tax Day; aka Yuck!  Next Monday is the deadline.  Are you ready?

Does it seem to you that no matter how we complete our income tax return; no matter how much expert advice we pay for; no matter what plans we put in place to lessen our tax impact for the next year, we still seem to be funding everything?  

On the one hand, I hate the immense level of government spending taking place at the federal, state, county, city and even homeowners’ master association level.  The media reminds us of the tremendous waste that seems to occur every day; every where.  And during an election year?  Well… talk about a “deduction”.  Yuck! 

On the other hand, when there is a natural disaster; a scientific breakthrough funded by a government grant; wider highways; or when we simply have a friend or family member in need and they receive support from a social services program, we are happy we live in America, true? 

Income tax time is one point during the year when we add it all up.  (Talk about “March Madness”. HaHa!)  Sometimes we like the results; other times?  Not so much.  It brings to mind that “new math”: 

The Income Tax has made more liars out of the American people than golf has. 

Will Rogers 

Question:  If I work from home and my dog barks when the FedEx driver arrives; does she qualify as my receptionist – and can I write-off the cost of her dog food?  No? 

All in all, last year was a very good year for me and mine. How about you and yours?  I suppose it depends on how we measure “good”.  Filing income taxes forces us to look at our W-2; 401k; bank statements; along with our mortgage interest; real estate taxes; and all of those numbers the IRS wants us to report.  That’s one way to measure “good” (or some years, not so good). 

When we look in the mirror, often much of our financial pains are self-inflicted: 

More and more these days I find myself pondering on how to reconcile my net income with my gross habits. 

John Kirk Nelson 

We heard growing up that money isn’t everything.  Do we have the same perspective as adults?  Hopefully so.  Our income, even when reduced by taxes, can still be more than enough for folks that are easily contented.  Unfortunately, the itch of discontent sometimes influences us to spend more than our means, yes? 

During these times of computations (and consumption), it’s not what we make that counts; it’s what’s left over.  Years ago we called it “net worth”.  Today, “line of credit” seems to have replaced the importance of net worth.  Like our federal government, line of credit means “debt”; and debt is not the same as net worth.  Are we worried?  Maybe we should think like rich people think: 

If you owe the bank $100, that's your problem.  If you owe the bank $100 Million, that's the bank's problem. 

John Paul Getty 

We are looking forward to this year – it will be our best year ever!  We can control how we define “best” by following the guidance of the renowned author and poet, Robert Lewis Stevenson: 

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.                                 

Oh, and no – the seeds are not deductible. 

GAP 

When life gets tough we could get a helmet… or… we could leverage the peace and share the power of a positive perspective.

Obligations…

I was enjoying coffee with my friend Steadman, recently.  I’ve known Steve since grade school.  In addition to coffee we share many common opinions about work, family, and life.  At our recent gathering I shared the zig-zagging path I’ve been on since “retiring” in February 2022.  I may not work fulltime anymore, yet I seem to be busier than ever. 

Truth be told, when one of my former clients or colleagues asks how my retirement is going I cringe. It sounds like I should be sleeping late, golfing, reading the paper; none of which are even close to my daily routine. 

It’s my own fault.  I’m “playing with fire”.  On the one hand, I’m trying to stay connected with the sales profession and today’s business world.  On the other hand, I don’t want to work every day.  And I certainly don’t want to “report to a manager”.  (Besides my wife, of course. HaHa!)  I told Steve I’m literally losing sleep over these mutually exclusive preferences. 

That’s when my friend offered his great wisdom.  “Gary, I know you well enough to say if you put your name on it, then it becomes an obligation.”  That’s it!  That’s exactly what’s been happening. 

Once Steve helped me clarify what was going on in my mind, I immediately realized how I’m getting myself into these situations.  You see, I made a living by following a couple of basic principles.  First, I liked to declare that I was in the business of saying, “Yes”.  That behavior is now engrained.  I’m reluctant to say, “No”; to opt out of things; especially when others around me won’t jump in.  However, saying “Yes” means that it becomes an obligation. 

My second, basic principle is always striving to give my best in competitive situations.  That attitude predates my business pursuits.  For instance, when I was growing up and playing basketball I had the same approach.  I really like Tom Connellan’s explanation for this trait: 

One with passion is better than forty who are merely interested.

We have all interacted with those who are “merely interested”, yes?  That’s not the personal branding I want to be associated with, do you?  Beware though - there’s a price to pay.  Passion  creates obligations. 

The word obligation reminds me of secret #1 from our favorite Unknown Sage and all those “obligated” bull riders: 

Cowboy secrets to life’s success: 

1. Don’t let your head strap your hand to anything your butt can’t ride.

2. Never corner anything meaner than you.

Earlier in my career, I attended training sessions on how to avoid obligations; how to say, “No”.  I had teammates who were concerned about becoming over-extended.  At that time, I could not have disagreed more.  Today, I’m wondering if I should have taken the teaching points more seriously.  Interestingly, another friend of mine (also named Steve) took just such a training class at his company a short time ago.  The crux was how to say politely, professionally, yet uncompromisingly, “No”:  

Not all projects should proceed… sometimes it’s better to be seen as stubborn rather than ineffective. 

Flawless Consulting 

Good point, true?  Going forward I’m going to pay closer attention to what “I put my name on”.  I won’t compromise the passion part. Once my “hand straps my butt” to an obligation, I will pursue that commitment with as much passion and professionalism I have. 

I guess I am stubborn.  But I never want anyone to think I’m “merely interested”. 

                                                            GAP 

When life gets tough we could get a helmet… or… we could leverage the peace and share the power of a positive perspective.